Hi all! I was chatting with Leslie (the office manager) about where the “something old, something new, something borrowed & something blue” came from. Since we were both confused on it’s origins I fired up trusty ol’ Google and looked it up. I was pleasantly surprised that The Knot has already done the research for me:
This tradition comes from an Old English rhyme (“Something Olde, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, A Sixpence in your Shoe”), and the four objects that the bride adds to her wedding outfit or carries with her on the big day are just good luck charms. Something old represents continuity; something new offers optimism for the future; something borrowed symbolizes borrowed happiness; something blue stands for purity, love, and fidelity; and a sixpence in your shoe is a wish for good fortune and prosperity, although this remains largely a British custom.
well. This made me wonder: what are the stories behind other wedding traditions & why are we still doing them?
So, I Google’d a few more. Here are some outdated traditions that you can stop doing, like now.
DRESS BY MON CHERI
White wedding gowns are actually pretty new tradition, celebrating purity. These days, most couples will live together and well… ahem, some brides are just a little less pure than others, if you know what I mean. In Celtic & Indian culture red is the ideal color for a gown, and a couple of centuries ago all Christian brides wore blue. Celebrate wedding dresses that aren’t just white! Wear a blush or ivory gown, because honestly, white is just really hard to keep clean all night.
Not Seeing Each Other Before the Wedding
PHOTO BY CHARMCITY WEDDINGS
This tradition came from ye olden days of arranged marriages where everyone believed if the couple saw each other before the ceremony they would skip out on the wedding. I’m betting you’ve probably seen your betrothed before, so you can just skip this tradition and have a “First Look” before everything starts. Plus it saves time between ceremony & reception, where the bulk of group pictures are usually taken.
Giving The Bride Away
PHOTO BY BRYCE COVEY
Giving away the bride is an super old tradition since technically women were their father’s property until they got married. Then they were just lucky enough to become their husband’s property. The bride was literally given away in exchange for a price. Your father (or mother!) can still walk you down the aisle, but since he won’t be asking for a cow and three chickens, he will just be walking you down the aisle.
Wearing A Veil
HEADPIECE BY OLIVIA HEADPIECES
People in ancient Rome used to believe that evil spirits and demons would be attracted to the bride since she’s so “pure,” so they covered her face with a veil in order to conceal her features and confuse them. But now, only a couple of guests at your wedding believe that evil spirits will attack you if you skip out on the veil, and I like those odds.
Gender Specific Wedding Parties
PHOTO BY GREG SLICK WEDDINGS
It makes sense for the groom to have groomsmen and for you to have your bridesmaids, but I don’t understand why you can’t have your best guy friend be your Man of Honor… Or your fiance couldn’t have a Best Maid. or a Groomsmaid. or a Bridesman. Long gone are the days of only having friends the same gender as you, so why not mix and match?
What are your thoughts about these traditions? Do you have any other traditions you’ll be skipping out on? Let us know!
Director of Events